Tired of coming home from work, but your wife complains? Here's how to be wise!
When Home is No Longer a Place to Rest
As a husband, you must have experienced this moment: coming home from work with a tired body, wanting to lie down immediately, but immediately greeted by a wife who complains about many things.
It feels like the workload hasn't been completed, instead it's added more at home.
Do you get annoyed? Of course it does.
It's normal to have thoughts like this: "I've worked so hard for my family, how come my wife doesn't understand?"
But, let's think for a moment, could there be something we're missing?
Tired at Work vs. Tired at Home
As husbands, we do have a big responsibility to earn a living.
But remember, your wife also has a “job” that is just as hard, though often invisible.
Imagine your wife's routine: waking up early to prepare breakfast, taking care of kids who might be cranky, cleaning the house, and making sure everything runs smoothly throughout the day.
And it's all done without a formal break like we do in the office.
So, when you come home and find your wife upset or complaining, it could be her way of letting off steam.
Not because she doesn't appreciate you, but because she needs to be heard and understood.
Why Do We Often Feel Not Understood?
You might be thinking, "But I'm tired too, why doesn't she try to understand me first?"
Well, this is often the crux of domestic problems: two people who both want to be understood, but forget to try to understand each other first.
As husbands, we often feel like our struggle is the hardest.
But do we ever really try to see what our wives are going through?
If we want to be appreciated for our hard work, shouldn't we also appreciate our spouse's hard work?
Appreciate Her the Way You Appreciate Your Mother
Your wife is the mother of your children.
Her role in the family is huge, even though it may rarely be seen or said.
Ask yourself: do you give your wife the same respect that you give your own mother?
Because basically, their roles are not that different.
Your wife sacrifices a lot to make sure the household runs well, including her own time and freedom.
Start Small
Honoring your wife doesn't mean you have to give her something expensive or grand.
Sometimes, it's the little things that mean the most, like:
- Take the time to listen to her. Ask her how her day was, and listen intently.
- Give compliments or thank you notes. A simple example: "Thank you, the food was really good".
- Help with homework. It doesn't have to be grandiose, just helping with the laundry or looking after the kids for a while shows that you care.
- Make time for casual conversation. After the kids are in bed, try sitting together without distractions, just chatting or drinking tea together.
With small steps like this, you can build a more harmonious relationship and make your wife feel appreciated.
Encourage Your Spouse to Understand Each Other
Remember, a household is not about who is more tired or who sacrifices more.
Harmony arises when husbands and wives can understand and support each other.
So, let's start from ourselves.
Listen to your partner, appreciate their struggles, and don't hesitate to express your gratitude.
If you find this article useful, don't hesitate to share it with your friends.
Who knows, they also need these simple tips to improve their relationship with their partner.
What do you think?
What is your experience in building communication with your partner?
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Language: Bahasa Indonesia
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